5 Important Ways to Stop Judgmental

If that emotion of, “I’m better than thou,” creeps up on you while comparing yourself to someone else, believe the following:

1. Think the saying, “a few saints have a history and many sinners have a future.”

Being a ‘saint’ isn’t guaranteed for any one person for a duration. But the path to Allah forgiveness is forever open and particularly tailored just for the one who makes a fault and regrets it and look for change, still if it’s over and over and over.

2. Believe about our sins and Impairments.

Oh, wait, can’t feel of any? If we can’t, we’ve been cheated by Satan and are in an even worse condition than any of those whose clear sins we recognize.

3. Remember the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: “No one with the slightest particle of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise.” (Bukhari)

From time to time the actions we observe others busy in may be sins, but may not be as grave as the problem of conceit. In wanting others to do something like they’re people of heaven, let’s be cautious not to build ourselves candidates to be barred from it. Allah protect us.

4. Inquire ourselves: Is that being a parent?

If they are and we aren’t, they’re by now light-years in front of our game. If she’s a mom, heaven is potentially under her feet. If they are a mom or dad, any good they taught their children and their kid acts upon being rewards going in a straight line back to them. How are we going to evaluate ourselves to that? If they are and we are, think: what great job might their offspring do that may be since of one class that person taught them?

5. Be reminiscent ourselves: We have no thought what another person has gone through or where they’re actually coming from.

How many people were actually beaten in arranges making they implore, forced into wearing hijab, or sexually ill-treated by a “religious” person? Our minute connections with individuals are not an entry to their backgrounds and past move violently. We don’t know the pain they’re working through. And sometimes, due to those very painful experiences, people leave the practice of Islam or leave Islam totally. But then they sometimes decide to come back. And when they perform, it will get time. They have to work from side to side their feelings, the toxic relations which initially caused the schism they experienced with Islam and the difficulty in finding a niche in a community after leaving it for some time. And all of that is jihad. Daily they are waging interior battles.

What they go throughout cannot fairly be compared with the young man or woman who was raised in a understandingly religious family, who was a part of a nurturing mosque society, who was put in Islamic school since nursery school and taken to Qur’an classes every day. A twenty-year-old hafith (one who has memorized the entire Qur’an by heart) might be impressive and may Allah sanctify them and He has raised their position in a special way. But they may not essentially be closer to Allah or earning more rewards from Allah than the struggling servant who has dealt with hard to believe hardship and is struggling to come back.

So, what can we perform when that ‘holier than thou’ feeling moves stealthily in?

Think: Omar, may Allah be pleased with him, used to be a aggressive Islamophobe who would beat his servant for her belief in Allah. Now, he is known to us as one of those promised heaven by the Prophet ﷺ himself. Would he have been our role model if we knew him previous to Islam? Maybe not. But seem who he became. You recognize why? Because, by Allah leadership and kindness, he had a tutor and a community who helped him arrive at his full potential.

That’s what we require to be for others and let others to be for us. Be a loving adviser. Be a helpful friend. Be an encouraging therapist. Be a shoulder to weep and lean on. Your awesome love of Islam and “Muslimness” will be communicated just through your actions by being there for others in an uplifting, real way. If appropriate, when someone is ready, that being will inquire you about Islam and search for your help in becoming the best Muslim they can be, Allah willing. Or perhaps they’ll be more unlock to listening to your genuine, gentle recommendation on something you’re truthfully concerned about because of your worship for them. This perspective does not signify we do not counsel others when we’re concerned for them, it just means we do so while withholding decision and in a systematically wise way.

Be like the Prophet ﷺ. Engulf your heart so intensely in caring for people’s pleasure in both worlds that it just does not have space for judgment or conceit. And perhaps, because of your sincere receipt of another, you’ll soon discover that very person being a means of leadership for your own self.